This week is Baby Loss Awareness Week. A time to remember, reflect and to acknowledge these precious babies and for people to talk openly about the subject of and raise awareness of baby loss. Here, we learn about Carla’s experience and what Baby Loss Awareness Week means to her….
Carla Pilsworth’s baby Daisy was stillborn in February 2011. Having enjoyed a “textbook” pregnancy, at 37-and-a-half weeks her baby stopped moving and she began to experience some pain. Carla went into hospital and to her relief, monitors detected the baby’s heartbeat, but it was slow. Fearing baby Daisy was in distress, doctors ordered a Caesarean delivery.
It turned out Carla had suffered an acute placental abruption, which had starved the baby of oxygen and despite the doctors’ best efforts her daughter was stillborn.
“When I regained consciousness I knew immediately what had happened and the pain that I felt was absolutely unbearable,” says Carla.
Carla has also suffered recurrent miscarriages since Daisy’s death and has also undergone surgery to remove a twin ectopic tubal pregnancy.
“Baby Loss Awareness Week is important for me and many around me because it is a chance to let others know they are not alone.
“1 in 4 pregnancies will end in miscarriage. 1 in 200 babies each day are stillborn. These numbers and statistics are way too high, but they will never change unless we all start talking about them, be open and raise as much awareness as we possibly can.”
Carla has been supported by both Sands, the stillbirth and neonatal death charity and Tommy’s and has dedicated a lot of time and effort fundraising for both charities, in memory of Daisy, and to raise funds for more research into stillbirth, miscarriage and pregnancy loss.
Baby Loss Awareness Week is co-ordinated by Sands on behalf of a number of baby loss and children’s charities united in their support for families who experience pregnancy loss or the death of a baby. The 24 charities are: Sands, Aching Arms, Action on Pre-eclampsia, ARC (Antenatal Results and Choices), Bliss, Child Bereavement UK, CMV Action, The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust, Group B Strep Support, ICP Support, Kicks Count, Life After Loss, The Lullaby Trust, Making Miracles, the Miscarriage Association, The Multiple Births Foundation, Petals, SANDS Lothians, The Scottish Cot Death Trust, SiMBA, Tamba (Twins and Multiple Births Association), Teddy’s Wish, Together for Short Lives and Tommy’s.
For more information, you can visit babyloss-awareness.org.