Of course a healthy baby is at the top of every conception wishlist, but if you’re secretly hoping for a little bundle of blue or a little Miss Pink, there are some things that you can try to stack the odds in your favour and increase your chances of conceiving the gender that your heart desires!

Timing is everything!

For a boy, have sex the day you ovulate or the day before. Male sperm move faster but die more quickly, so if they can get to the egg first, you’re in with a chance of having a boy. Bin your partner’s skin-tight pants and get him into boxer shorts. The baggier the shorts, the higher the sperm count and the greater the chance of a boy. Avoid sex three to five days before ovulation. This should also raise the sperm count.

As female sperm tend to live longer, aim to have sex two to four days before ovulation. This will ensure most of those male sperm have died out.

Frequency of sex

For a girl, have lots of sex! Frequent sex reduces sperm count, and increases the number of female sperm and so improves the chance of having a girl. Conversely, less frequent sex means the sperm contains more male sperm and therefore you are more likely to have a boy.

Whilst there’s no firm proof that this works, statistically, couples are more likely to conceive girls earlier in a relationship when (in theory at least) they are having frequent sex, than later in a long standing relationship, when the frequency of sex usually goes down.  We think it’s got to be worth a try!

Look at your diet

It’s been suggested that The pH balance in your body can have an effect on which sperm will be successful.  A less acidic environment is encouraged for the ‘boy-makers’, this means a diet packed with plenty of salty foods, red meats, eggs, peas, raisins, aubergines, mushrooms, beans, sweet corn, bread, and fish.

However, if it’s a little lady that you’re hoping for, foods naturally high in calcium and magnesium, such as leafy greens, fruits and rice, are said to be good for conceiving girls.

Sexual position

A position that allows deep penetration means that the boys will have a head start (in a less acidic environment) and less far to travel.  An orgasm is said to increase pH levels too, making for a more boy-friendly alkaline environment.

Conversely to conceive a girl, missionary is best!  This means that the more hardy female sperm are more likely to endure the longer journey and survive the more acid environment into which they’re released.  Sorry ladies, but to keep things acidic, it’s probably best to skip the orgasm or make sure you go first!


The theory behind douching to encourage a gender specific pregnancy is again reliant on the fact that male sperm survive better in alkaline conditions, while female sperm favour more acid conditions. Douching the vagina (squirting liquid into it) using weak acid or alkaline solutions is therefore supposed to favour the survival of one or other type of sperm.

Whilst the theory has an element of truth to it, douching changes the conditions in the vagina rather than higher up in the uterus or fallopian tubes, where the egg is actually fertilised, so it may not have much of an effect.

Also, bear in mind that a strong douche can actually damage the sperm, so if you decide to try this, take care to use only weak solutions. (For alkaline conditions, use one tablespoon of bicarbonate of soda to one pint of lukewarm water. For acid conditions, use one tablespoon of white vinegar to one pint of lukewarm water). You can buy douche bags from chemist’s – but do follow the instructions carefully.

When you can’t leave it to chance…

If you suffer from a genetic disease or condition, there are doctors who can help reduce the chances of you having a certain sex of baby and therefore reduce the chance of the child either having the condition if it passes only to one sex, or being a carrier for their own children. Your own GP knows your medical history best and will give the best advice in this case.