Gone are the days of waiting for a delivery from our friend the stork! Today’s mum to be is far too busy to wait around for fate to take a hand. In the midst of weddings, work, social events and holidays, women today are apparently far more meticulous about planning their unborn baby’s conception than ever before according to research.
Among the factors which now play huge parts in the timing of conception and a pregnancy is to fit in with hectic lifestyles are school entry dates and term times, work holiday entitlements and even friends’ weddings.
In fact one in four couples admitted putting conception attempts on hold at certain points of the year as they don’t want a newborn’s arrival to clash with other ‘important engagements’.
The study*found as many as 34% of those researched who have given birth in the last year or plan to have a baby in the next two years, admitted they were planning to have their baby in a specific month.
September was named as the most popular month for couples want their bundle of joy to arrive.
A further 62% said they would always prefer to have a baby in the summer months and shockingly, one in twenty revealed they would be disappointed if their baby didn’t arrive in a certain season – or even month.
Work was found to play an important role as the poll found 40% of the 1,000 women polled said there were certain things in their career they wanted to accomplish before starting a family, and 32% wanting to earn a certain salary before trying to conceive. More than one in 10 women said they set themselves a target of reaching a £30,000 salary before attempting to start a family. One in ten wanted to reach management level and an ambitious one in twenty were determined to own their own business before becoming a mother.
For some women the timing was based on more practical considerations. More than half said it was vital they owned their own house before trying for kids – and nearly two thirds wanted to be married. 21% said they needed to pass their driving test before having kids and 28% said a garden was a must.
And what about enjoying the little luxuries before becoming parents? One in five wanted a flash car before settling down with a family and 22% want to experience a once in a lifetime holiday.
Social engagements were also a factor. Attending a wedding, being a bridesmaid and attending important meetings or events were all listed as things women would hate to do whilst being heavily pregnant.
The study found 55% of respondents felt modern women were used to meticulously planning their lives and that embarking motherhood is no different. More than a third of women said they worry they will be over looked at work once becoming a mother and nearly a quarter said it’s impossible to return to the same level once having a baby.
Interestingly, the poll found when the time was right, couples were having sex on average about four times a week in order to have a baby at the right time. As far as couples trying to conceive one in five couples use ovulation kits or monitors and 67% lie with their legs in the air after sex in order to increase chances of conception.
Top things women want to accomplish before starting a family
1. To be married
2. To own my own house
3. To have matured enough to be a mother
4. To have travelled
5. To have cleared any debt
6. To have completed further education / necessary qualifications
7. To have a garden
8. Go on a once in a lifetime holiday
9. To have passed my driving test
10. To own a nice car
11. To have £10,000 in savings
12. To have said goodbye to my party days
13. To lose weight ahead of getting pregnant
14. To be earning £30,000
15. To have reached management level
16. A long awaited promotion
17. To reach the top of my game at work
18. To own my own business
19. To cut down on my alcohol intake
20. To be earning £40,000
21. To have paid off my student loan
22. To be earning £50,000+
23. To move back to be near my parents
24. To complete a sporting accomplishment
25. To have earned enough to afford a nanny
Top things mothers want baby’s birth to coincide with
1. The spring
2. The summer
3. The start of the academic year (September)
4. The six week school holidays
*on behalf of OvuSense 2015